Mr. Right?

Tonight I was thinking about this guy I had been completely infatuated with a while back. The ridiculous part of it is that I had not even talked to him in person - only one time online for maybe 20 minutes. What's funny is that I had this guy all built up in my head, and I was so nervous to talk to him I was trembling. However, I left the conversation feeling disappointed. We didn't talk that long, but he still wasn't what I had expected. He didn't say anything to sweep me off my feet or make my heart melt. After that conversation, to me, he was just another guy.

How many times do we see someone we envision so far out of our league, that we never talk to them but rather keep building them up in our heads? How many times do we choose to watch from a distance merely wishing for a chance?

I'm reminded of my least favorite phrase, "When you meet the right guy, you'll just know." I do believe that saying is true. But I also believe that when you meet the wrong guy, you'll just know. What I have been trying to understand is why we allow ourselves to get so wrapped up in one guy when we cannot even bring ourselves to talk to him. I knew next to nothing about this guy! I allowed myself to idealize him to the point where I was so petrified to talk to him, I was a nervous wreck. I think maybe if he were the right guy it would have been easy to talk to him. If he were the right guy, I would have felt more comfortable around him, and nothing would have made me feel inferior.

Maybe we are unintentionally making these men more important and powerful than God in our minds. It's like we're saying it's one thing God can't do - to allow us to talk to him (and not look like a complete idiot), and that there's "no possible way he could be interested in me." We should stop putting guys up on pedestals before God, and we should not allow ourselves to think we're not good enough. First of all, God is so much more important than a seemingly perfect-for-you guy, and He can handle any situation. Furthermore, He created us. We are perfect in His eyes and we can't allow ourselves to cut ourselves short. Also, because we are daughters of God, we deserve the best. We cannot allow ourselves to feel inferior to a man. We must realize the fact that we deserve the best, and we can do all things through Him who gives us strength - even talk to that handsome man. God will show you if the guy is right or wrong . . . but at least if you give it a shot, there's no guessing whether or not it would have worked.